Realize You Are Responsible for Your Own Happiness

Just came through one article that caught my attention . So I think is fair to share it out - Realize You Are Responsible for Your Own Happiness . This article is especially for those who feel unhappy for some reasons . It also serves as an important lesson for me i guess .

Here we go ..

Sometimes we carry a sense of entitlement that makes us believe other people owe us , that they are somehow responsible for our happiness . If we are sad , they need to give us their support . If we are lonely , they should keep us company . If we are in a relationship, our mates are supposed to protect us from pain . They should be sorry when we are mad and attentive when we are sad . They should promise that no matter what happens , they would never hurt us . These are impossible expectations .

Although it is normal and self-respecting to want others to treat you well , in the end it is your responsibility to take care of yourself . If you are in a situation in which you aren't being treated with respect , it is up to you to remove yourself from that situation .

You may have had a friend who constantly complains about the way her boyfriend treats her . The first time , you feel awful for her . The second time , you hold her hand and agree that the guy is a jerk . But after listening to her complaints again and again , the question inevitably becomes ," How much of this are you going to take before you stand up for yourself ?"There is a fine line between being taken advantage of and letting yourself be taken advantage of .

You have to be honest with yourself about your circumstances . You have to face things that you might rather ignore . For instance , you may have a friend who turns out to be selfish and deceitful .Sadly , it becomes your responsibility to end the friendship if your attempts at working things out are unsuccessful .

Unrealistic expectations always end up hurting you. The more you believe others owe you , the sadder you are when they don't deliver .The " if he loved me , he would do this and he wouldn't do that" game is a setup for headache . If you are able to say to yourself ," It is my job to be happy . It is my job to take care of myself , to be healthy and to give myself the things I need then you are owning your power to be happy or not .

You can't make rules in relationships to ensure that you never get hurt . You can't leave it up to someone else to make sure that you are happy . If you do , you will end up feeling disappointed and sometimes even brokenhearted . But you can take responsibility for your own happiness . You can be sure that you don't always end up in the position of the victim . You do this by acknowledging whose job it is to take care of you -yours . You do this by putting yourself in situations that are healthy , with people who are good to you and who understand friendship and commitment . When you find yourself unhappy , you look at your circumstances and figure out what you can do to change then . This is what it means to take responsibility for your happiness , and this is one way you can begin showing yourself the love you deserve.

p/s : NOTHING CAN BRING YOU PEACE BUT YOURSELF

Phew

Finally , no more assignment and midterm test !Much to my delight , I did well this time. Keep it out !=D

Hope for Reformation one day in our country

Im so obsessed to Dato Anwar Ibrahim and Nga Kor Ming recently . The way they all is , unlike BN who just abuse the power and the rights of people , make me feel respected to them .


p/s : may Pakatan Rakyat form the government and fall on the BN one day!

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